A Woman Won by Love

I have a couple of young male friends who once made a science of flirting. They read books about it, fastidiously putting what they learned into practice. Until talking to them, I never knew of the volumes of material written on the subject. I assumed people just followed their instincts. No. Flirting has been raised to a science.

For example, a blogger named Donalgraeme created an acronym for what he called “the five vectors of female attraction.” He wanted to concisely identify what traits in a man attract women. The vectors are:

Looks
Athleticism
Money
Power
Status

The LAMPS acronym has no doubt worked magic for many a man in fleshly pursuit of a woman. But would it work to win a pure woman? Would it work to secure a real relationship? Or would the shallowness of the criterion itself sabotage any hope of a deeper love?

I got to thinking about the romance between God and His people. I’ve been writing a book called The Lamb Wins to accompany the music CD by the same name. I’ll be presenting the material from the book this fall in a Revelation seminar. Due to all these projects, I’ve been eating, drinking, breathing and sleeping Revelation.

I’ve come to believe the central motif of the book is the romance between the Lamb and the bride. It seems to me that the war between the Lamb and the beast, essentially an extension of the war between Christ and Satan, is really the secondary war of Revelation. The primary war is the Lamb’s death-defying struggle to win the bride’s affections. It has been a slow, agonizing war—a cold war at times, fought in the silent disappointments of the bridegroom. But finally He wins her.

I found it illuminating that it is after she bestows her full affections, after she is clothed “in fine linen, bright and clean” (Revelation 19:8), symbolizing her full dependency upon Christ’s righteousness, that Jesus returns. Then the White Horse rider, in a mode of utter triumph and masculine virtuosity, thunders forth to vanquish the enemy. So what won the bride? Did Jesus use the vectors of Donalgraeme’s LAMPS acronym?

Looks- She doesn’t lay eyes on His physical self till the wedding.
Athleticism- A Lamb doesn’t show much muscle.
Money- The Lamb’s beast-nemesis flashes much more money than He does.
Power- And the beast seems to have more power.
Status- Does dying on a Cross sound like status?

My point is that the Lamb wins the bride’s heart on the basis of something far more substantial than Doangraeme’s “LAMPS.” The Lamb has a lamp of His own. The goodness of God illuminates the Holy City, “and its lamp is the Lamb,” (Revelation 21:23, italics supplied). That Jesus calls Himself “the Lamb” 29 times in Revelation—more than any other name—is no accident. He refers to the aspect of Himself that ultimately succeeds in conquering the heart of His woman. It is His self-sacrificing love. The Lamb wins His bride on the basis of His character of love. And a woman won by love is a woman won forever.

Please join me in Philadelphia for these important events:

Sept. 28- The Lamb Wins presentation at Bucks County Adventist Church.

Oct 5- The Lamb Wins CD release concert featuring Alison Brook, John Millea, Matthew Resendez, Lee Givhan, Delon Lawrence, David Kim and other artists at Chestnut Hill Adventist Church.

Oct 11-Nov 2, Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights- The Lamb Wins seminar featuring music by various artists and teaching by Jennifer Jill at Chestnut Hill Adventist Church.

Order The Lamb Wins double CD here.

Pray for me! This is the first Revelation series I’ve ever done. Also, I’ll be in Honduras teaching biblical psychology for Instituto Biblico Centroamericano (IBC).

11 thoughts on “A Woman Won by Love

  1. Bert

    It’s pretty easy for an unwealthy 60-something guy to agree wholeheartedly with this kind of thinking. This is probably particularly the case since this guy has been happily married for more than 40 years. However, reality check: those five vectors simply are attractive to most potential attractees. It could probably even be argued that this is the way the Creator created us. It is the way human brains work–though it must be admitted that this very good part of the human experience has been grotesquely twisted by the enemy into something nearly unrecognizable. So, given the war that is going on between ultimate good and ultimate evil, the reality is that guys must be on high alert to discriminate between the fools gold that is superficial and simply cannot last and the genuine gold in a truly desirable woman. Some guys do get it right. For whatever blessed reason–and it certainly doesn’t make sense for me to take much credit for it–I did.

  2. Tommy Lane

    I read a book a few years ago called “The Game.” It was a fascinating read about the methods used by pick up artists to attract women and acquire women. Most of the time it was bars and clubs where they practice their art. They usually work together in groups of 2 or more, with one man being the wing man. There are all kinds of psychological moves made. For instance, if there is a women with a group of friends that is the “mark”, the “pick up artist” will work his way into the group, paying attention to everyone in the group but the “mark.” Once in a while, he would give a slight amount of attention to her, and then go back to entertaining the group, continuing to mostly ignore her. What it does is builds up desire for that “mark” to want the attention that she isn’t getting. Eventually, she gets it.

    I believe their techniques work but it certainly isn’t Christ-like and the ultimate goal is not to get a girlfriend or a wife but to play the field with many different partners. Many times they are average guys who have had bad or no luck with women. They find out about these methods, take the course, go out on trial runs, then become adept at it, themselves.

  3. Nancy J Adams

    “I’ve come to believe the central motif of the book is the romance between the Lamb and the bride. It seems to me that the war between the Lamb and the beast, essentially an extension of the war between Christ and Satan, is really the secondary war of Revelation. The primary war is the Lamb’s death-defying struggle to win the bride’s affections. It has been a slow, agonizing war—a cold war at times, fought in the silent disappointments of the bridegroom. But finally He wins her.
    This is truly so beautiful to contemplate. I feel this tug of war every day of my life and am so dismayed at the many times I let him go or even send Him away. But truly He never leaves
    me or forsakes me and I truly believe the power of His love, grace and desire for me will win over my flesh, the world and the devil. This is my hope and is the hope I share with others. There is no other hope but the goodness of the Lord. Thank you Jen for clarifying this war within the war within the soul.

  4. Jennifer Jill Schwirzer Post author

    Bert, I agree with what you’re saying. I don’t mean to disparage basic biology. It’s all part of God’s design. If men got attracted to post-menopausal women the human race would have died out long ago!

  5. Jennifer Jill Schwirzer Post author

    Wow, Tom. My friends have explained things like that to me. So manipulative! Def not God’s approach.

  6. Jennifer Jill Schwirzer Post author

    Nancy, I’m so glad this helped. As I said, I’m very tired and I wondered if I was making any sense.

  7. Ron Lambert

    I don’t know about the science of flirting. But I have heard of the opposite extreme–really bad pickup lines. The worst was in a cartoon by Berke Breathed, “Bloom County,” many years ago. He had his self-taught ladies man character sidle up to a woman sitting at a bar, and ask, “Do you have anything I could catch?” That has to be about the worst pickup line ever.

    Of course, there is also a thing called “reverse psychology.” There was this girl I had dated a few times in college. She had been a friend I knew from academy days. One day I met her while she was working at the checkout desk in the library of the music department, and she told me she was feeling really depressed that evening. Then she actually dared me to say anything to cheer her up. Well, I thought a moment, and then I said, “Life is a terminal illness.”

    She started to protest that I was supposed to say something to cheer her up, and before she realized it, she was laughing out loud in spite of herself. Mission accomplished.

    Ron Lambert

  8. Susan

    Really appreciate the insights you share! Looking forward to getting a better understanding of the Book that holds so many blessings for the reader. I must say I find it challenging to grasp at times. The Lord is using you mightily. ” Through the Lord you shall do gloriously, for He it is Who will tread down your enemies.” Be of good courage!

  9. Mark

    So just wanted to let you know to keep up the God given calling!

  10. Melinda Smith

    SO pleased with you and your work and willingness to do this for Jesus and His people. Keep up the good work and I will be praying for blessings!

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